I am dating a nice guy, but I AM feeling a big BUT here. I don't know why. Something just doesn't feel right about all this for me. I can't put my finger on it. You would think after dating him exclusively for for five months, my opinion would change. The sex life is so-so, not fantastic. There are things he wants me to do that he won't do for me! (I've discussed this with my doctor and he suggests that I don't do these things, either!)

I have a big problem with any man or woman who expects a partner to perform any act that they are unwilling to do in return. No. No. No! Both parties in a relationship should be treating the other person as they'd like to be treated themselves. If that balance is missing, resentment usually follows. If he wants reciprocity, he should be willing to give it. That is the basic rule.

If something doesn't feel right, guess what? It probably isn't right. You're entrepreneurial, motivated, driven and focused, and your comment about his great pension indicates that you're not thrilled with his lifestyle. That alone is worth paying attention to. Do not force yourself to ignore the mismatch just because he seems nice. When your gut keeps speaking up, it deserves a hearing. You do not need to argue yourself out of what you already know.

You say he's a nice guy, but how nice is he really when he expects you to do things for him that he would not even consider doing for you? Why twist your own arm into continuing the relationship? If the fit is wrong, it is wrong. You do not need to talk yourself into staying just because the man is pleasant enough. A nice title is not enough. The real question is whether the relationship feels fair, and in this case it does not.